Don’t Apologize for Cutting People Out
It seems to be a trend on Facebook for people to talk about “cutting out toxic people”. While it may get annoying to see those posts on your timeline, people have legitimate reasons for cutting out people. Whether it be abuse, maturity, difference of opinion, etc.
My experience on this took me time before I realized that I needed to do it for my health.
I always saw the good in people even if it meant sacrificing my happiness. I thought that I needed to have as many friends and family as possible because I was afraid to be alone or left out. My dependence was my downfall and it wasn’t until I met someone that taught me that I don’t need to keep people in my life that treat me like I’m sub-human.
Let it Out!
Growing up I was always taught that family is family and that you don’t cut them out. This stayed with me well into my 20’s. Even if I was treated horribly by family or if they were deviants in some form (I think you get what I’m saying), you never ignore them.
This isn’t healthy. I would say that you want to approach the family member hurting you in some way before you release them from your life but if they are unwilling to accept their behavior towards you, you need to let them go.
It isn’t just family I have done this to, I have cut off friends that were detrimental to my health or were not helping me grow. Now I know it isn’t their job to help me grow, but I want to surround myself with people with like-minded goals.
Relief
Just like the Oasis song, you don’t have to look back in anger at the time spent with toxic people. I know there were times I enjoyed with certain family and friends and I will always cherish that.
I have felt relief after cleansing myself of people with bad vibes, and I know it can take time to build up the courage to do so (living with them, dependent in some form), but eventually if you want to grow as person you need to move on.
I can say that my family specifically views me as the black sheep now that I stopped talking to some of them. You know what? I don’t care. I don’t need the gossip, the drinking, the drama that they harbor in their own circle.
Moving onto new things is nothing to apologize for and nobody should make you feel guilty for trying to do better for yourself financially, mentally and physically.
