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I’m Getting Divorced in my 30's
Here is what I’ve learned about myself
It was late at night after a fight. He had asked me to go think about what I really want out of life. So I did. I sat at my computer and looked up reasons to get divorced. Besides domestic abuse, we had every reason to break it off. I sat and cried for a moment before going to my (soon-to-be-ex) husband “I don’t want to do this anymore.” I said to him. He seemed shocked, like I wasn’t going to suggest the big D. He was obviously sad and hurt, but I knew it was the right thing to do.
Months earlier I had almost done something horrible and attempted to step out of my marriage. I didn’t but I felt so guilty I told him. From there, we tried to work things out. It took three months for me to figure out that I wanted out.
There is nothing inherently wrong with my ex-husband. He is a great person with a lot to offer someone. I just felt like I never fit into his world or his view of what he expects of people. He had made the mistake of threatening divorce 6 years prior (married 7 years) because I dropped out of school. I have no regrets getting my degrees but it always bothered me that he threatened to leave me.
